"Tap your heels together three times and think to yourself - There's no place like home. There's no place like home."

- Glinda the Good Witch (Billie Burke) from The Wizard of Oz, 1939

So why is this section called "The Power of Know" - ???


Well, in order to easily say "No" when needed,you need to know who youreally are.  That old saying of "Home is where the heart is..." takes on a whole new meaning when you learn to come from your heart, that deep place of knowing, instead of your head.


In other words,


(Your ego-mind...)




Stop a minute. Breathe. Take an inventory of your life. Are you doing too much? Saying "Yes" to too much? What can you eliminate to make your life more manageable, more sane, more joyful?


Do it! Remember, you give more of yourself when you have more of your SELF to give.


Right now, take a moment to GIVE yourself three deep breaths.  Close your eyes and do a scan of your body slowly from head to toe.  When you come across any tension, tell it to relax, and let it GO.


When you feel centered in your heart, ask yourself these questions and be open to the thoughts that appear as answers:


  • Who am I?
  • What do I want to do with my life?
  • Where do I want to be living?
  • When will I be ready to be who I really am?
  • With whom do I want to share my life?
  • How will my dreams come true?
  • What is my purpose?


As you ask yourself these questions, just let whatever bubbles up be there and look at it objectively.  There are no right or wrong answers, just the inner YOU lighting your path.


What I have found in my own life and in the life of so many of my friends, family members, and clients, is that we keep putting the needs of others before our own. 


We have difficulty saying no to family, to friends, to our employers and co-workers... even to our pets when they ask for something!  We are always serving others, yet not taking the necessary time out to give to ourselves.


Imagine if we drove our cars without ever putting gas in them... it wouldn't be long before they died on the street.  Imagine how long our digital cameras and cell phones would work without recharging the batteries.


Why do we think our bodies, minds, and spirits can just go and go and go without any recharging?! 


As I learned first to say to myself and now to my overworked and overstressed clients... "STOP IT!"


(For a moment they are stunned when I say this, and then we always dissolve in laughter.  These two simple words seem to bring people back to their senses.  At that moment my clients see they can make the shift to leave the quicksand pulling them down, down, down, and choose a lighter, brighter, more joyful paradigm. :)

Here is something else I love to say to my clients, while waving a pretend magic wand in the air: 


"You now have permission to speak your truth kindly to everyone and not take on anything that does not feel right to you."

Many tear up at this one, as if they needed permission from outside to say no, too afraid to grant this to themselves.  When asked, they immediately say it is OK for everyone else to take time off and/or say no, just not them.


Dear Ones, it is time to shift that perception.  As we get busier and busier, trying to do it all, we get sicker and sicker individually and as a nation - have you noticed? 


Let's all return to a place of peace and sanity and good health and loving relationships.  Learning to say no is part of that.


Here is a lovely quote my dear friend Nancy sent to me:

May peace be with YOU.







Holistic Wellness Educator,

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Bach Flower™ Therapist,

Wellness Boutique Owner, Plant-Based

Nutrition Counselor,



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